Many of you will be reading this not quite sure what point I am trying to make. Perhaps you have referred to yourself as both a sub and a slave and thought nothing of it. As an experienced Financial Dominatrix, Mistress and Goddess however, I can say that there is a distinction that all would do well to make. It is time to probe deeper and ask ourselves ‘what is in a title’ and should you be self-identifying as a sub or a slave?
What is a sub?
The word ‘sub’ is simply an abbreviation of the word ‘submissive’. It is a descriptor of personality, of traits and demeanour. It is indicative of the person you are and to My mind, is where all slaves have begun. Each and every one of you have at some point in time realised that you were destined to serve and follow a dominant Woman, ideally a Superior who would be worthy of the gift of your submission. A submissive may seek interactions with dominants to explore this side of themselves, seeking sessions and during those periods entering a subspace where their senses are heightened. At this point many will view Findom within the category of a kink or a fetish. They may acknowledge this submissive layer of themselves but it is something that is never publicly aired nor given the credence and contemplations it deserves. As they are seeking self-pleasures they will tend to roam across the scene, drifting somewhat aimlessly and subbing to many Women without loyalty or commitment and with sugar coated words spilling forth without meaning. His obedience lasts only as long as a session for the rest of the time he flippantly still believes he knows best and resides entirely within the vanilla world.
What is a slave?
A slave however, is the progression that a sub can and should hope to make. It is an entirely natural metamorphosis of self, where the submission felt is fully embraced and permitted to flourish until the sub has moved beyond idle dalliances and self-centred motivations to become a slave. This may begin when the individual realises that as a sub, the only real part of his interactions with any of the Dommes is his money. There is no bond and no connection. For that to happen he must cease being a sub to the many and instead seek to be enslaved to the One. A slave is one who is ready to leave drifting and childish desires to one side and instead build something of value and meaning. Of course, making this decision does not mean he is complete – far from it. However, with guidance and dedication it is possible that he can be transformed to become the perfect fit for My world and the slave that I know he has the potential to become.
A slave is very different from a sub. I would always expect that a slave has fully embraced his submissive side and whilst he may not know what to do about it, he will have accepted it is integral to who he is. Those who are on this path will be prepared to serve just one Woman, the One who he believes he will be able to move forwards with showing loyalty, commitment and devotion. The bond forged will enable Me to have total trust and faith in what he says and does. He will not only be ready for change, but desperate to embrace it and work towards the future that I envisage. My goals are his, My dreams are his and My happiness will be essential for his own. For Me he will sacrifice gladly, without complaint or reservation. Put simply, successful slaves do what unowned subs do not – they don’t wish serving was easier, they push themselves to be better.
Does it matter?
Those who embrace Findom as a lifestyle as I do, will have little time for those of you who fall into the category of ‘sub’. After all, what you do is dabble at the thing which I hold dear and whose foundations dictate every element of My world. I look at you and see men who are too afraid to commit to being honest with themselves and pretend that total satisfaction is reached through interactions with strangers. As I am a Dominant always, subs are submissive always. There is no switch you flick on or off. It is an innate thing and should be viewed as a gift.
My Advice
My advice is to never settle for simply being a sub. A sub can read about Findom as much as he likes, but it is only through experiencing the life that is possible as a slave that he can hope to understand what it is to be owned, to have a Life Mistress, to always have sanctuary, support and shelter, to be encouraged and accepted for who you truly are instead of the persona you are forced to portray. To be a competent slave will take time and all can be learnt beneath the watchful gaze of the right Mistress. There you will find success and lead a life full of purpose and finally, happiness.
