The month of October
October is fast approaching and in recent days the annual flurry of posts regarding Locktober have begun to make an appearance. It is an odd phenomena – a period of time each year where a new little club among men form, only to disband and disperse with the arrival of November. I adore chastity within My Findom world, but as a Mistress I cannot be doing with this little clique. To Me, chastity is so much more than what it is reduced to within Locktober and unless it is being used as a gateway to long-term chastity, a period where newcomers can glean additional support from those going through similar, it is not being done for reasons that please Me and really, that should be the whole point!
Chastity – the ultimate gift
I have always encouraged those who are able to offer their chastity to Me as a gift. It is the ultimate personal sacrifice, an expression of their devotion to Me and signifies their priorities. In short, I come first always, especially before selfish sexual pleasures. I do not mind if a slave uses a chastity device or makes a verbal agreement. For some there is a legitimate reason why a cock cage would be unsuitable – they may have a partner or significant other, perhaps they get changed in situations where it would be seen, their job may make its use impractical, comfort may be an issue and in fact detract from the experience and so on. Of course a slave who does not use a cage can then report whatever he likes to Me, but a true slave knows that to lie to Me is only to do himself a disservice so what would be the point?!
Selfish urges
The reasons I choose chastity to play a role are many. Naturally it is symbolic and increases My pleasures and power. As I am the most important person in the lives of My slaves, it is natural that every sexual desire, urge and moment of weakness is entirely fixated upon Me. Chastity ensures that I am because I am the one who enforces the abstinence and am the source of all frustrations and pleasures. But that is just the beginning. By committing to be chaste you are not wasting time and energies on selfish activities. Does you playing or having an orgasm do anything for Me? No! Am I supposed to feel pleased that you have cum with Me in mind? Hardly! As if I should consider it a kindness to have a slave demote Me to a few moments of fantasy! A true slave will learn self-restraint and use those emotions and energies in his service to Me. He will give Me his undivided attention, focus and energy, he will labour tirelessly for Me and he will thank Me for stripping him of this useless male past-time. That is something I can be proud of and how a slave shows Me respect.
Locktober?
Now you can see how little of that comes to the fore in Locktober. A slave who embarks on it purely for it being an ‘event’ wishes to play with the notion for himself. Those who do it certainly have every right to take pride in completing the full 31 days but it is about personal achievement and for some to work towards a heightened release when the month is over. They are following the actions of the herd and not giving the reins to Me or a fellow Mistress, they are not wishing to cause My pleasure or happiness, nor trying to strive for My betterment or adapt to My wishes. Were he doing it for his Mistress it would be done to Her schedule, not the one which the online community has deemed suits because they can get a good sounding title out of it! Though no doubt some will dip into using a Domme to heighten the sense of kink during the month. Key holding, tease and denial and such can all form a part of the month of Locktober but yet again, it is the man using the woman in the period of time that has been designated to enhance his experience.
Funnily enough I do not consider Myself to be here to heighten your latest game. I demand to be served loyally and consistently always, not just when an aspect of it is trending on social media!
