Whenever financial domination is looked at there are a sea of words, phrases and actions that are now expected. It is deplorable just how much true Findom has changed across the years to suit the rhetoric of women wanting to make a quick buck and men wanting to get their own way under the guise of being submissive. The concept of wallet draining sessions are, to My mind, one of them.
A wallet drain, for those uninitiated to the act, is a session where a man says he will send money to a woman over a period of time during interactions typically on the phone or cam. For those who know Me and My rules, some of My issues with wallet drains will already be coming to the fore! Let’s have a closer look at where this seemingly innocent act falls down in true, pure financial service.
- I have no intention in being on standby for a slave in case he decides he wants to interact Me. I live My life and a slave melds to that, not the other way around.
- I do not accept sessions. A slave submits and is gracious for the time he is given, he does not book a time slot like a garage and expect Me to then do something in that moment for money, which brings Me to the next point…
- Findom is not paying for services! I am your Mistress and for some, Goddess. I am not here to provide a man with a service, I am here to be treated with the level of respect that I deserve. That means money is laid in reverence, in thanks, with good grace and with gratitude because of who and what I am; not because of what you may get in return. A slave does not ‘pay’ Me. He expresses himself through the laying of tributes and the sacrifice of what was once considered his money to add to My happiness and life.
- To serve a FinDomme is to be selfless. It is to put Her wants and desires above your own. That is impossible when it is being done solely when pleases you and usually this pleasure takes the form of sexual gratification. Why on earth would a Woman of My standing care for your state of arousal and feel any need to feed into it?! The notion that I have any interest in heightening your sexual state so as to make you send money that is already rightfully Mine is ridiculous. Men would do well to get over themselves!
- I am not a source of entertainment. I offer My slaves a lifestyle where they are free to be themselves, able to explore their submission and lead a fulfilling life according to My wishes. I give My slaves My all and expect nothing less in return. Those who want to dabble are free to do that elsewhere with the pretenders online – there are enough of them but you will never know long-term satisfaction. It is as fleeting and transient as your orgasms!
- The sessions are utterly meaningless! If I were to do them I would not know or care who you are and you would know nothing about Me. I deal with reality and let Me be clear, when serving Me that is better than any fantasy. I want My tributes to excite Me and that comes from knowing My slaves are committed and devoted. I am forever destined to be their everything. What matters half as much in your vanilla world life?!
- Within a wallet drain the power is entirely at the will of the man. He may say he is submissive but realistically it is something he is playing at for the 5 minutes he has decided suits him. He holds the money, he decides if he sends and what he sends whilst a woman strives to be considered worthy of it in a wallet drain. My slaves know what it is to submit to Me with their hearts and minds, the power is always Mine and there is no question over My expectations. Saying you are opening up your wallet is meaningless to Me. True slaves get on and send what they recognise to be Mine anyway without the fanfare.
As a final word of warning to the ladies engaging in these practices, do as you wish but recognise that when a man on Twitter/X asks who is interested in a wallet drain session he in all likelihood isn’t and clamouring for his attentions is unseemly. Heads high and let the worthy learn to come to you.
So, for all those who think you are such a good finsub for doing a periodic wallet drain, perhaps you should really think about what you are doing and why. Maybe you just aren’t slave material or maybe, just maybe, it is time to submit and commit to someone that only accepts the best.
